Two year old baby Jordan would have been nine years old this year had the circumstances surrounding his untimely death been prevented.
Regretfully, Jordan was killed by blunt force trauma at the hands of his overly stressed mother.
At A Mothers Arms, our work and passion is to prevent future child abuse and child death at the hands of over stressed parents.
The new law will require new training for caseworkers, law enforcement officers and parents to recognize head trauma in children under 6.
Be observant, not judgmental. You don’t have to diagnose — just be aware. Recognizing the early signs of child abuse is one of the most powerful tools for prevention and intervention. Abuse can be hidden or subtle, and the goal is not to accuse but to protect. If something feels off, trust your instincts and seek help or advice from professionals. Educate yourself about physical, emotional, and behavioral signs of child abuse and neglect. These signs can include: unexplained bruises and bite marks, fear of going home, poor hygiene, and bedwetting.
Know what’s happening at school, with friends, and in extracurricular activities. When parents, guardians, and family members know what’s happening in a child’s day-to-day world — at school, online, with friends, in extracurriculars — it not only builds trust, but also creates a strong safety net. Abusers often target children who seem isolated or disconnected from trusted adults.
A foundational part of building emotional safety and helping prevent abuse is showing children affection and support. Children thrive in environments where they feel loved, seen, and supported. When caregivers consistently express love and affection, it helps children build self-worth, emotional resilience, and a sense of safety. Be emotionally available. Let them know it's okay to have bad days. Validate their feelings instead of dismissing them. Stand up for them.
Let them see you advocate for their needs, especially in unfamiliar settings (like schools, doctors, or social groups). It teaches them what healthy support looks like.
Let children know they can come to you with problems and that you’ll always believe and support them. Creating a home where children feel safe to speak up about anything — without fear of punishment, shame, or being ignored — is one of the strongest protective barriers against abuse.
Abusers often rely on secrecy — they count on the child being too scared, ashamed, or confused to tell anyone. Normalize tough conversations, stay calm when kids bring you hard truths and avoid harsh judgment or overreactions.
Body autonomy means that every person, including children, has the right to say what happens to their body, and others must respect that. It's not about being defiant or disrespectful; it's about empowerment, consent, and safety. Avoid forcing kids to hug or kiss relatives if they don’t want to — their comfort matters. Abusers often groom children by crossing boundaries in small ways first. If a child has been taught to trust their instincts and say “no,” they’re less likely to comply silently. When children understand body autonomy, they’re more likely to recognize inappropriate behavior and tell someone.
Be mindful of who your child is spending time with, both in-person and online. Many instances of abuse happen not with strangers, but with people the child knows and trusts. That’s why awareness, supervision, and communication are key. The more you know about your child’s environment and relationships, the better you can spot red flags early. Examples of red flags to note in adults or older kids are:
- Insisting on alone time with your child or frequently offering to “help” in ways that feel excessive,
- Refusing to let you drop in unannounced or be present,
- Making you feel like you’re overreacting when you ask questions.
Children learn more from what they see than what they’re told. The way adults manage emotions, relationships, stress, and conflict sets the emotional tone for the home and directly shapes how children treat others and how they expect to be treated. Being a positive role model doesn’t mean being perfect. It means consistently showing values like kindness, respect, empathy, honesty, and self-control, even during tough moments. Demonstrate respect, empathy, and healthy ways of managing anger and stress.
No one can pour from an empty cup — and parenting (or caregiving) is one of the most emotionally demanding roles anyone can take on. When you’re overwhelmed, sleep-deprived, anxious, or unsupported, it becomes a lot harder to stay calm, patient, and responsive with children. That’s why knowing your stress signals — and building strategies to manage them — is key to preventing emotional and physical harm. Abuse and neglect often happen when caregivers are pushed past their limits and don’t have healthy tools or support systems to cope. So taking care of yourself is a big part of taking care of your kids. If you’re overwhelmed, take a break. Self-care helps you stay calm and patient with your child.
Parenting doesn’t come with a manual, days off, and no one is born knowing exactly how to handle tantrums, teenage moods, screen time, or the overwhelming emotional labor that comes with raising children. That’s where our parenting classes and workshops come in: they offer practical tools, emotional support, and expert insight to help caregivers grow in their role. Far from being a sign of weakness, taking a parenting class is a sign of strength, commitment, and love. It says:
“I care enough about my child and myself to keep learning and improving.”
We've all heard it takes a village to raise a child — and that’s not just a nice saying. It’s a survival strategy. No parent or caregiver should feel like they have to do it all alone. Building a strong support network helps reduce stress, improve parenting confidence, and provide emotional and practical backup — which all greatly lower the risk of abuse or neglect. A support system isn’t just about help when things go wrong — it’s about having a community of people you trust to share ideas, lean on during hard times, and celebrate wins with, big or small. Stay connected with friends, family, or parenting groups for emotional and practical support which is one of the most protective and empowering things a caregiver can do — for both themselves and their children.
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PERSONAL ENRICHMENT MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES (PEMHS) - (727) 545-6477
NATIONWIDE 3 DIGIT MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS AND SUCIDE PREVENTION SERVICES NUMBER - 988
24 HOUR SUICIDE HOTLINE - (727) 791-3131 OR SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE - 1-800-273-8255
24 HOUR MENTAL HEALTH SERVICES - 541-4628
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